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そのまんまで
来てくれたら、大丈夫。

薗部健太さん。木々を背にシャツ姿で笑っている
Kenta Sonobe, the first host in the Chubu region.

KIBOU lets a student who is job hunting stay two nights in someone's home, at no cost for the room. The first thing anyone wants to know is whose home it is. A stranger's house is frightening. But if you know the person before you go, it stops being a stranger's house. So we went to talk to the hosts.

The first is Kenta Sonobe, who will be the first host in the Chubu region. Formerly of Recruit, he still works in the hiring field. As a student he built a club that introduced other clubs, travelled by hitchhiking because he had no money, and got by staying in other people's homes.

He has just moved into a new place and has never hosted anyone there. He has decided to be the one who welcomes people anyway. The interviewer is KIBOU's founder, Takafumi Araki.

サークルを紹介するサークルを、作っていた

Why is he so ready to take people in? Asked that, he answered with a story from his student years.

I made something like a club that introduced other clubs. The concept was that meeting people changes your life — a student version of a recruiting agency, really. I had no money, so I got around by hitchhiking.

The group was called Gakusei Dantai Connect. It no longer exists. He also ran internships for students. Asked what drove all that, his answer was short.

A lot of people helped me back then, so wanting to give that back has never gone away. Whatever I have now came out of the people I met and the ties I made.

1日のプログラムより、泊まった夜のほうが人生を変えた

It started with an event he attended as a student.

What led me to start the group was going to an event called Minna no Yume Award, and through someone there, staying at a share house. Staying there, I learned how many different people exist. Until then I had belonged to exactly one community. I went to that share house and found all these different people. Some of them gave me advice, and that really landed with me.

The house afterwards did more than the event itself. That order became a habit of staying in share houses again and again — and left him with one conviction.

In the end I came to believe that the hours spent inside a share house change a person more than anything done inside a one-day program. I stayed in a lot of them myself, and that part has never wavered for me. Maybe underneath everything is the sense that the house itself matters enormously.

It felt as though he had put our own idea into words before we could. Two nights and three days exist for the same reason. Not an hour-long interview, not a one-day event — the time spent in the house is what changes people.

→ Why three days?

ヒッチハイクという「異常行動」を、受け入れてもらえた

Has connecting with people without a job title become rarer since entering the working world? He thought for a moment before answering.

Much rarer, yes. Friends, about that far. Back then, someone would pick me up hitchhiking, we would talk, we would connect, and I would feel an enormous amount of love. That number of encounters just isn't there any more.

A stranger stops and gives you a ride. Why should that stay with someone so long? Saying more than once that he could not find the words, he went on.

Hitchhiking is, in a way, odd behavior. And yet it was accepted. Because I was taken as I was, I could feel that whatever else I said would be fine too.

However strange I was, someone would still stop for me. Inside that feeling of being affirmed, my own sense of worth rose. I think that may be what was happening.

You are allowed to exist exactly as you are.

Not because you can do something, not because you have something — accepted simply for being there. That is probably what sits at the center of staying in someone's home.

表に出ない人たちが、変わっていくのを見た

Here he stopped talking about himself. What began instead was an account of what happened to the people around him.

When that power comes out, I think a person's potential explodes.

The members of that student group each carried something of their own. They didn't come out front much, but the ones supporting everything from behind were all people like that. I received an enormous amount from them, and I watched them change enormously once they could be themselves. Maybe that is why I have kept believing in it ever since.

What kind of support did they give you? The answer came back slightly off the question.

There wasn't really support as such. It was more that we could all be as we were with each other — whatever you are is fine. Honestly, I think it was closer to there being no good or bad at all.

They were not helping each other. They simply never brought good and bad into the room. He has watched, first hand, people change on that alone.

その価値観は、社会人になっても効いた

We assumed this would end as a fond student memory. It did not. He went into the hiring industry afterwards and worked at Recruit.

Recruit can push people very hard. When I was leading a team, I asked for every one of the people who wanted to quit because of that to be put on my team, and they were.

I kept talking with them, and they started working endlessly, quite apart from the job itself. In the end that team produced the best results.

That was because they were doing it for enjoyment, not because it was work. That feeling seems to me exactly the same as the being-yourself of my student years. So I think it probably matters a great deal.

The people who had wanted to leave produced the most. The student-years story repeated itself inside a company — in the part of a company where numbers are counted.

This may be the part that matters most to anyone about to job hunt. A place where you can be yourself is not a shelter that expires with graduation. It works on the job, too.

だから、そのまんまで来てくれたら大丈夫

What kind of student would you like to come? We asked.

Just as they are. Nothing else is needed, and nothing else matters.

He does not ask who the other person is. Which is exactly why there is something we should say from KIBOU's side. We do not put safety on the host's judgment of character. Identity verification and a credit-card check are handled by the platform. Messages stay inside KIBOU rather than on outside social media. A host is free to welcome people unconditionally. Protecting them is the system's job.

Araki had reached the same place through another door. Bullied at school, bad at maths — inside a game, none of it counts. The only question is whether you can spend time together. KIBOU puts a game before the stay because we want that order back. Take the label off first, then meet.

In his words:

That kind of thing still works once you are out in the working world.

これから来る学生へ

Finally, we asked for a message to the students who will come to stay.

I want them to be as they are. There is your situation, and plenty of other things, but I don't want anyone giving up because of them. I want people to do it the way they want to.

編集後記

There is one place where the texture of the conversation visibly changes: where he stops talking about himself and starts talking about other people. That is the passage we quoted at greatest length.

At the end of the conversation, Araki said this.

Listening to him, I wanted to go and stay with hosts all over the country myself. If the students who read this take some heart from it, that is enough.

His home will be the first KIBOU house in the Chubu region. No one has stayed there yet. The first person could be you.

This article was composed by KIBOU's editorial AI from the record of an hour-long conversation, and supervised by Takafumi Araki. Kenta Sonobe gave his permission for it to be published. The quotations have been tidied from spoken Japanese for readability.